Every person has their own views and opinions on life and it’s ways. The relationships we get involved in are a reflection of the type of people we are or want to be in a sense. Time invested in these relationships ensure their growth as well their benefits in your life.
Taking a look at one of the important relationships a person could have, Friendship. Deep ties are made when a genuine friendship is formed, effort and time go a long way in keeping this form of relationship going. Friendships are really based on the type of opinion one has towards them and what significance they bear in life.
I asked my friends to tell me what friendship was in their own opinions. And this is what they had to say:
To me Friendship has lost her respect, because she has been used and abused by people who come in sheep skin but have wolf hearts. In the beginning its always hard to trust because of that, you don’t know how genuine someone is to you when they build this new “friendship.” At the same time you also need to remember to be genuine, as after a lot of failed friendships we all tend to be weary and untrusting. You have to give in order to receive whether it will be worth it in the end or not, that is just a gamble you must take. The best friendships take time and nurturing it’s about valuing and seeing someone the way you view yourself. You can’t have a best friend if you don’t produce best friend material. A worthwhile friendship to me is caring and making the time to know what’s happening and sharing with me as a person.
““A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ― Elbert Hubbard
A true friend is one who will always be there when you need someone. They will leave all their important works but will never leave you alone, especially in your difficult times. That is why it is said a friend in need is a friend indeed. Difficult times are the best time to realize who your true friends are. It does not matter how many friends you have, what matters is how many true friends you have. Friends show us how to live life in a different way, they are the ones who can change our viewpoints for good. There is no growth of the person without any friend. A friend is really very essential to understand life. Until now we have been looking at life the way our family wanted us to see, it is only when we see the world with the eyes of a friend that our view point changes.
The kind of friends you have determine the kind of person you are. That is why it is advised to be careful before making a friend. Choose someone with good thoughts and character, because our thoughts and feelings are affected by the place we live in and by the people we live with. Be friends with someone who makes you feel free, positive and alive.
I think we all need friends for when days are dark as well as when we are happy and celebrating good things in our lives. Somebody will understand you and not judge you. Loyalty is something that means a lot to a friend. Friendship is not about how you know somebody but, how you relate to them.
Real Frienship means you build each others lives somehow, it could be the support you get from each other in terms of pursuing careers, relationships, marriages etc.
Having similar qualities, views and goals is extremely beneficial and great. At the end of the day we are all individuals and have plenty differences that we are designed to share with each other. We also need to learn and understand the next person and allow them to express themselves. Friendships are a part of life that we need to go through to grow.
Author: Zanele Mash
Sources: Mercia Mcunu, Prudence Dosha & Caroline Molebatsi