A lot of people have that small little voice that stems from self doubt inside them. Meaning that there’s a part of you that does not believe in your successes and doubts your abilities. These type of people are suffering from imposter syndrome, if left unattended it may become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Imposter syndrome refers to those who have persistent belief in their lack of intelligence, skills or competence. They are convinced that other peoples praise and recognition of their accomplishments is undeserved, owing their achievements up to chance, charm, connections and other external factors. People living with IS constantly doubt their own ability to repeat their past successes. When they do succeed they feel a sense of relief rather than joy.
In order to recognize and deal with this syndrome one needs to seep rate feelings from fact. Just because you feel inadequate doesn’t mean you are inadequate. A person needs to change their self talk because the words you use really do matter. Getting a grip on your failure is also a step in the right direction. Changing your mindset on failure allows both you and your confidence level to grow exponentially. It’s important to never berate yourself for feeling this way because no one consistently reaches their insanely high bars they have set for themselves.
Below are the 7 signs you may have imposter syndrome:
1. You focus on the one thing that is wrong, rather than what’s right.
2. You may not understand that certain things come naturally to you, but not for others, so you tend to devalue your own talents.
3. You think that it has to be difficult to be worthwhile. Sometimes you may complicate things that are in fact easy.
4. You believe that whatever you are doing is never enough. You only feel worthy when your achieving, so you constantly push yourself to achieve more.
5. You become your own competition – you constantly play against yourself trying to better yourself.
6. You are too busy feeling and not doing. You tend to over think, over analyze and often feel lost.
7. You don’t have perspective and need to take a step back. It is possible that you are devaluing the positive impact you have on others, and by taking a step back can therefore gain some objectivity.
This article I had to write and include in this issue because I suffer from IS and believe many women may need to sit down and check if they don’t either.
By: Zanele Mash