For girls growing up, our moms are truly our first best friends. Mom is usually the first person to talk to about relationships (if you have a close relationship with her firstly). Mom gives advice on any and everything your struggling to make decisions on or understand, she’s your go-to life dictionary. But to what extent do girls draw the line with telling mom about their romantic relationships?
Of Course a girl feels safe when confiding in her mom because that’s the person who will always have your back through thick and thin. So it becomes so much easier to share with mom about stuff that’s happening in your relationship with your man because she will listen and most probably side with you right? Well ladies this is wrong. Your mom does not need to know everything about your relationship with your man. You sharing every detail is painting a certain picture in her head, not giving her time to get to know him for herself on a clean slate. It’s not entirely wrong to share just be careful what you share. A moms job is to protect her children when it comes to outsiders therefore she must have her own opinion on a her daughters partner with no influence. Should anything go wrong in the relationship, she will be first to speak which could worsen a small situation.
This is why most men have issues with their partners moms. A woman never really knows when to draw the line with her mom, which sends a message to mom that it’s ok to immerse herself in the relationship whichever way she likes usually overstepping boundaries. Mothers are biased and thats just a natural characteristic that cannot be changed. And being honest, moms have no filter and this could be detrimental to your relationship.
So, women need to understand that there’s only a small portion of their relationship that mom needs to know about, everything else such as sex and fights, mom doesn’t need those details.
By: Zanele Mash