What is shade? The urban dictionary describes it as “acting in a casual or disrespectful manner towards someone/dissing a friend.” Well sadly this is everyday life for a whole lot of women. We may not admit it but come on ladies we ALL do throw shade, may not be always but we have and do.
Women have a psyche that truly is complex and inexplicable. Most of us do wish we could all just get along, competition and jealousy aside, but it’s become a mission to let other ladies live without thinking we owe them a little comment. Sarcasm has been sugar coated shade for a very long time with women, we often say we are joking after a nasty or hurtful comment that it’s become normal to accept. Reasons as to why shade is thrown is totally unknown.
I’ve noticed that those who normally are shady are the ones who feel they can do no wrong and are superior to everyone else. In actual fact, the women who throw the most shade need to belittle others to overcome their own inferiority complex. For example, you go and post an indirect status on Facebook with the intent to hurt or embarrass someone, who ends up looking childish? Discussing another person with someone else is also a form of shade. Life would be so much easier if we all just let others be, buts that’s in a perfect world.
It all starts with a positive mindset, sorting out whatever issues with a person you have problems with is the first step. Feeling the need to make snide comments or jokes about a persons looks, dress sense, home, car, partner etc. does not make you look any better. Although I have to admit some people deserve it, but make sure it’s behind closed doors. Social media is not a place to go start a shade parade, being direct in person is best.
By: Zanele Mash